10 Things That Happen When You Stop Having Sex


10 things that happen when you stop having sexSex is good for you. Plain and simple, we all know it. It has many health benefits for your body, From promoting better sleep to a stronger immune system to burning calories and boosting our mood, relieving anxiety and stress – getting some is good for you in many ways. Not to mention, its fun (most of the time) and feels good.

So, what’s the problem?

Why would anyone want to give up sex?

Of course, that also means that not having sex can create some negative changes for both men and women.

Whether you are experiencing a dry spell in your life or you’ve decided to go sex free for some reason, there are some changes to be aware of once you start experiencing some lack in the sack (in no particular order) ……..

What Happens When You Stop Having Sex

Your Stress/Anxiety Levels Increase

This one is a no-brainer. Having sexual intercourse releases all those feel-good things that make you feel warm and fuzzy. Thanks to the release of endorphins and the “love chemical” oxycontin.

The bio-chemicals acetylcholine and dopamine AKA endorphins, have a similar chemical structure to morphine, which is probably why it makes you feel so good. In fact, endorphin production can increase 200% from the beginning to the end of sexual activity.

Can I get a drip?

They also help reduce stress/anxiety and boost confidence. Oxytocin is a hormone and a neurotransmitter that is involved in childbirth, sex, etc.. It is also associated with empathy, trust, sexual activity, and relationship-building.

It is sometimes referred to as the “love hormone,” or “love drug” because levels of oxytocin increase during hugging (hey you can still hug it out) and orgasm. So, therefore, the lack of these chemicals will result in an increase of stress.

 Your Immune System Can Weaken

The lack of activity in the sack can actually cause you to become more susceptible to sickness. Want to avoid getting cold?

Have more sex!

Seriously though, if you are no longer getting busy regularly, then you are no longer getting those benefits, and you may be more prone to illnesses and infections that your immune system would otherwise fight off.

The Risk of Prostate Cancer Increases

For men – this is no joke. Sexual intercourse for men helps reduce the chances of developing prostate cancer.

How so?

Well, studies have shown that whenever a male does not have sex or ejaculate often, inflammatory cells can gather in the seminal vesicles adjacent to the prostate gland, which over time can lead to cancer.

So, no orgasms and possibly death…No thanks.

 You Won’t Get Turned On As Easily

You know what they say “if you don’t use it, you lose it” this goes for both men and women here. Sexual organs are muscles and when they are not being used, they are not getting any healthier.

Having regular sex is basically a way of tuning up your sexual organs, and going without for a while means that once you start up sex again, they will take a little longer to rev up.

So for ladies, the lack of sex leads to lack of lubrication. And men, lack of sex can lead to lack of erection. And cancer.

Your Libido Decreases

Aka you will lose the urge to have sex. Not only will your sex parts take longer to function properly, but once you stop having sex for a long period of time, your body will actually stop craving it.

Your Intelligence Can Suffer

Having sex makes you smarter?


New research says sexual activity can grow brain cells.

Scientists have demonstrated that sexual activity boosts neuron growth in the brains hippocampus which in return can make you smarter. Sounds like a no-brainer here.

A study published in the Journal of Sex Research tested the working memory of 28 healthy individuals when they were asked to keep track of neutral, negative, positive, or pornographic stimuli. “Results revealed worse working memory performance in the pornographic picture condition,” concluded Matthias Brand, head of the cognitive psychology department at the University of Duisburg-Essen, Germany.

Your Risk of STDs / UTIs Decreases

This is a good thing, obviously. Women who stop having sex will no longer experience UTIs caused by sex and both men and women will be decreasing their chances of catching any sex-related disease which typically occurs within 24 hours of sexual activity.

Here is the silver lining.

Your Self Esteem Goes Down

Not using it, you are losing it – in more ways than one. You might start to feel less attractive, sad and depressed. Sex is a natural endorphin release an ego booster. As human beings, we crave physical touch and physical connection, both which sex has to offer.

So if you’ve got yourself in a dry spell, be aware that you might start to feel a little less sexy and a lot more down in the dumps.

Now, this can happen if you are single, celibate, or in a relationship. If you are in a relationship and no longer having sex, that can cause many other issues aside from just feeling sad and unattractive. If you’re in a relationship and no longer connecting sexually, expect to feel more distant from your partner.

 Men- Chances of Erectile Dysfunction Will Increase

According to the American Journal of Medicine, if men are not having sex at least once a week, they are increasing their chances of developing erectile dysfunction.

After all, the penis is a muscle. If you are not using it, you can literally lose the ability to use it.

Women– not having sex regularly will cause the vaginal walls to weaken. The vaginal walls will get thin and weaken to the point of tearing while entering menopause, making sex extremely painful whenever you decide to hop back on the wagon.

You Can Gain Weight

Sex is a calorie burning activity.

So, if you go from having sex all the time to dry as the Sahara, it goes without a doubt that you might notice some weight gain. You might not realize just how many calories you can burn in between the sheets, but you will certainly notice once you stop.

According to Woman’s Day, you can burn around 476 calories making out in about an hour!

And lets factor in that maybe pre-sexy time, you gave your partner a message that can help you burn an extra 80 calories in just an hour. Next, that massage lead to foreplay – hand stuff will burn about 100 calories in an hour, and oral can burn twice as much at about 200 calories!

For the finale, you’ve got the real deal S-E-X burning all those calories. Depending on doing the most work that is…

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It is scientifically proven that sexual intercourse is beneficial for your health. Whether or not you decide to do the dirty or not is up to you. Should you chose not to, there are other ways of keeping your body a healthy one.

So, who’s getting down and who’s not?

Let us know!

-Terry Asher

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Terry Asher

Owner & Founder at Gym Junkies LLC
After changing his best friend’s life by helping him lose over 70lbs, dropping him down to an amazing 7% body fat, Terry was inspired to be a full-time internet trainer knowing he could do the same for many more. In 2010, Terry published his own diet and fitness e-book that can be purchased on this website. Let Terry help you change your body for the better!
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